The Ali way

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Dear Readers,

How are you reacting? Life can be stressful. Sometimes all we want is to scream, or maybe curl up under a rock? Well, I don’t know about you, but the pressure really erupts like a volcano sometimes and buttons get pushed too many times. Don’t you agree?

Have you ever wondered about a deeper meaning as to why our reactions are like exploding bombs at times? Even if we don’t show our upset, it’s there, nagging and gnawing at us, but life just gets so busy we shove it under the carpet in our minds and hearts. We are seemingly comfortable with the discomfort that our upset causes us, but what can we do right? We feel powerless in some situations, and no one’s really taught us how to manage our thoughts and emotions in healthy ways. Doesn’t it sometimes feel like our feelings have US on a leash?
These bomb-like reactions carry valuable information for us. If we can step into a higher perspective about ourselves, and others, our reactions can show us where we can practice more love in our lives. It has certainly helped me open up to more loving possibilities. As an example (a very basic one) , say someone really pushes your buttons, maybe a family member or a close friend, and you just can’t figure out what it is that makes you react to certain things he / she says. Maybe this person can teach you more acceptance or tolerance, not to take things too seriously, or maybe even forgiveness. We just have to be willing to see it this way and to see the other person not as an ‘enemy’, attacking us, but as a teacher, indirectly helping us. How others behave is not our responsibility, but how we behave is our responsibility. However, it is equally important for us to feel the way we feel too. And we mustn’t judge ourselves for how we react, but instead we must lovingly find a way to understand what it is in us that causes us to react.
It is hard work to let go of our negative reactions, but if we truly wish to be happy we will try to let go of our need to defend our upsets. As A Course in Miracles states, ‘Do you prefer that you be right or happy?’

 

Alicia du Plessis ( duplessis.alicia@gmail.com)